Kind people are particularly vulnerable to overwhelm, and need to protect themselves at work and play.

Personal growth is often a journey from pure reactivity to controlled responsiveness.

Our early relationships with carers equip us to manage the trickly balance between intimacy and independence. Some of us can grow up clingy or avoidant. As adults, being aware of our style of relating can help to mitigate relational problems.

The science suggests that, to make self-improvements stick, we should make them firm habits.

Let your mind and body tell you what you really enjoy doing.

We get angry when we do not trust ourselves or the universe to provide the right outcome.

Compliance has its place, but can also do a lot of damage. Creativity is important if society is to serve its citizens.

When we are anxious, our attention narrows its focus to threats. We can counteract this by widening our view and looking for good things to appreciate.

We are end-gaining creatures, surrounded by end-gaining systems. For our mental health, we would do well to notice, and to make good judgements about what to focus on.

We all live on our own mountain tops. To develop our compassion, from time to time we can visit each other’s mountain tops and see life through each other’s eyes.